Love but not being together

Love is a tricky thing. It varies in intensity and in the specificity of emotions. it is sometimes the most beautiful thing in the world and, at other times, it's the most horrid thing we've ever come face-to-face with.

It's odd how one thing could be the cause of so many contrary feelings. But that's what makes love so beautiful - it's the closest thing to perfection that exists in the world, the only thing that can easily and comfortably encompass both good and evil, beautiful and ugly.

There is another kind of love, a much darker and sadder kind of love. It's the love one feels when one loves someone he or she can never and will never have.

Some people cannot and will not ever end up together, even if they do love each other. It's a sad truth, but a truth, nonetheless

Some people don't work out together. they have habits or beliefs that make it impossible to co-habituate with the person they love. there isn't a couple out there that loves every little thing about one another.

There may find certain quirks cute , but they don't love them. They simply accept them. There are some people who have such habits, tendencies, or thinking patterns that really do make them incompatible with the other person.

The two may love each other fully, because remember, love isn't rational, yet not be able to live and deal with each other forever. This is why relationships require compromise

You are not going to love everything about the person you are with, but you love enough about him or her to live with things you don't love. not all people are willing to, or even able to, compromise. Sometimes it just doesn't work, regardless of what our emotions tell us.

Compromising is a choice. You either choose to make it work or you choose not to. As long as something doesn't go against nature, over time you can make it work. but there are still some cases when compromising isn't enough.

Sometimes there are other reasons two people cannot and will not ever be together. In fact, this is usually the deciding factor of whether or not to lovers will be capable of spending their lives together

Love is as intense an emotion as one gets, it occasionally leads us to poor choices. Choices that are hurtful to the ones we love.

They may be poor calls of judgement , lies we told or things we said. When it comes to love, our past haunt us. we move from relationship to relationship, hauling all that luggage we managed to accumulate in our previous relationship. Each time they take a break from each other, they come back and try to start fresh. but the problem is, they're still carrying all that luggage. And sooner or later they start to unpack. All the demons come out.

When love scars, it cuts deep. the pain isn't easily forgotten and usually cannot be willfully forgotten. when you hurt the man you love enough, he won't come back to you. And because you still love him, you wouldn't take him back even if he asked you to.

You wait in hopes that new love can take the place of the old -which it can. but that doesn't mean you will ever stop loving each other. some people will love each other until the day they die, spending the majority of their lives apart. and so is the darker side of love.

4 Signs to lookout For in a relationship

Criticism
Complaints are fine because they can be constructive, but criticism attacks a person and not their behaviour. Just because she has her constrains on not going to a trip with him, he said she is taking it for granted.

Contempt
In forms of name calling, eye rolling, sneering , mockery and hostile humour is poisonous to a relationship because it conveys disgust.

Defensive
Defensiveness is saying, " The problem isn't me, its you." It's the most effective way of blaming your partner and it almost always escalates the conflict

Stonewalling
When you tune out a person, you don't just remove the conflict, you remove them emotionally from the relationship. And since you obviously cant have a relationship alone, it's safe to say you won't be in a relationship for long if you keep stonewalling him