Thursday, October 29, 2015

Facts of Actual Couples

1. Steal his towel while he is in shower
Steal his towel and wrap him in a hot towel, kiss him on his cheek while his eyes are still shut and walk away 

2. Stop saying sorry and starting saying "thank you"
It let's the other person know you understand your shortcomings and it give them an opportunity to tell you they love you

3. Make time or one another, even if it means sacrificing sleep
Get up a little earlier to make him breakfast. Stay up a little later when he has work to be done. Blessed is the moment that you both go to bed together.

4. Take random pictures of her/him when she/he is not looking
Constantly tell each other how lucky it feels to have him/her. Just a picture that i never forget to do and hope he/she knows i never take for granted the great things i have

5. Dance
He is tall. We both can't dance. But i love swaying to music i love. Wish he would pick me up to stand on his feet and dance to our song. 

6. Keep lists of the things he mentions he likes or wants, small or large. 
Get him things he likes from time to time. It doesn't have to be expensive gift but be it the smallest craving to the expensive birthday gift.

7. Get his toothbrush ready to go for him every morning
All i do is put the toothpaste on it add a little water and set it on a little thing to keep it off the's a small gesture to let him know im thinking of him when i wake up and when i go to bed and all day in between. 

8. Set aside 'igloo time'
Cuddle under a blanket for 5 minutes everyday. Discuss our high and low for that  day. 

9. Give little presents
They really dont have to be expensive. just as simple as blemish cream during a pimple outbreak. Instead of asking him/her to get something, just get it for him/her

10. Put love letters in a box 
Write down all the happy moments in papers and keep them in a box. those are the memories of your relationship. whenever you are down, take time to read those happy notes in the box

11. Be a jerk 
Pretend that you cannot be there for him/her when he is expecting you to be there.  Then give him/her a surprise visit. everybody love surprises!

12. Leave notes for one another
When we have different work schedule, always leave notes to greet and encourage each other 

13. Randomly take his parents to lunch
This is an even bigger gift especially as your parents get older. 

14. Share a show
Watch a show together, buy the other person a candy bar. I think it's great watching a show with your loved one because the topics that come up in the show can be fodder for conversation down the line

15. Cook together
Team work and couples seem to have a great time doing things together

16. When dinner is ready, the phone is off
I have a hard time not looking at phone or ipad, but whenever im with him, i put them aside. You will find the light up in his face and becomes alot more talkative when you give him the full attention

17. Give away the last bite
I always let him have the last bite of anything we are sharing

18. Have your own hobbies that you do without your significant other
He loves games, i love books. I always imagine lying on his lap while he is playing his game, while i hit on that book

19. Get high together on endorphines
Exercise together. For some reason, i refuse to exercise in front of my partner. Couple who exercises together  increases of intimacy and sharing the same goal. They make an effort to look good and stay healthy for each other

Sunday, December 7, 2014

Love but not being together

Love is a tricky thing. It varies in intensity and in the specificity of emotions. it is sometimes the most beautiful thing in the world and, at other times, it's the most horrid thing we've ever come face-to-face with.

It's odd how one thing could be the cause of so many contrary feelings. But that's what makes love so beautiful - it's the closest thing to perfection that exists in the world, the only thing that can easily and comfortably encompass both good and evil, beautiful and ugly.

There is another kind of love, a much darker and sadder kind of love. It's the love one feels when one loves someone he or she can never and will never have.

Some people cannot and will not ever end up together, even if they do love each other. It's a sad truth, but a truth, nonetheless

Some people don't work out together. they have habits or beliefs that make it impossible to co-habituate with the person they love. there isn't a couple out there that loves every little thing about one another.

There may find certain quirks cute , but they don't love them. They simply accept them. There are some people who have such habits, tendencies, or thinking patterns that really do make them incompatible with the other person.

The two may love each other fully, because remember, love isn't rational, yet not be able to live and deal with each other forever. This is why relationships require compromise

You are not going to love everything about the person you are with, but you love enough about him or her to live with things you don't love. not all people are willing to, or even able to, compromise. Sometimes it just doesn't work, regardless of what our emotions tell us.

Compromising is a choice. You either choose to make it work or you choose not to. As long as something doesn't go against nature, over time you can make it work. but there are still some cases when compromising isn't enough.

Sometimes there are other reasons two people cannot and will not ever be together. In fact, this is usually the deciding factor of whether or not to lovers will be capable of spending their lives together

Love is as intense an emotion as one gets, it occasionally leads us to poor choices. Choices that are hurtful to the ones we love.

They may be poor calls of judgement , lies we told or things we said. When it comes to love, our past haunt us. we move from relationship to relationship, hauling all that luggage we managed to accumulate in our previous relationship. Each time they take a break from each other, they come back and try to start fresh. but the problem is, they're still carrying all that luggage. And sooner or later they start to unpack. All the demons come out.

When love scars, it cuts deep. the pain isn't easily forgotten and usually cannot be willfully forgotten. when you hurt the man you love enough, he won't come back to you. And because you still love him, you wouldn't take him back even if he asked you to.

You wait in hopes that new love can take the place of the old -which it can. but that doesn't mean you will ever stop loving each other. some people will love each other until the day they die, spending the majority of their lives apart. and so is the darker side of love.

Tuesday, December 2, 2014

4 Signs to lookout For in a relationship

Complaints are fine because they can be constructive, but criticism attacks a person and not their behaviour. Just because she has her constrains on not going to a trip with him, he said she is taking it for granted.

In forms of name calling, eye rolling, sneering , mockery and hostile humour is poisonous to a relationship because it conveys disgust.

Defensiveness is saying, " The problem isn't me, its you." It's the most effective way of blaming your partner and it almost always escalates the conflict

When you tune out a person, you don't just remove the conflict, you remove them emotionally from the relationship. And since you obviously cant have a relationship alone, it's safe to say you won't be in a relationship for long if you keep stonewalling him